Learning to Trust

What is trust?  How do we know who to Trust and when to Trust them? How do we trust ourselves?

These are questions we should often ask ourselves as we journey through life.

Personally I view trust in 3 elements, which have both personal, social and spiritual, along with positive and negative aspects.

These are,

Experiential,

the trust formed in consistency of behaviour .

Conviction,

the trust given in response to the personal desire to achieve.

Reputation,

the trust we form by others recommendation.

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Let’s look at driving for example.

When heading off on a journey. It is the conviction or motivation of the driver to reach your destination, that makes you want to join the driver as you both start your journey. It’s that same but heightened conviction that forces a husband to divert and speed to the hospital when his pregnant wife goes into labour.
For many new believers it is the acknowledgement of Christ dying for them and knowing of Christ’s love for them which leads them to turning to their lives around.

A great level of conviction can overcome all challenges and previous perceptions, when trusting yourself or others to achieve something.

Just ask yourself how much do you or they want it?

Through experiential trust, we acknowledge consistent behaviours.
Although vehicles travelling on the highway move towards each other at incredible speeds, it is through experience that we trust both drivers will remain on their respective sides of the road. It is through experience of a person continuing to act a certain way is what we lay our trust in. Mothers will strap their kids in seat belts extra tight every journey. While police will issue fines (or depending where you are, take a bribe) when they catch you breaking the rules of the road. This experiential trust can also be spiritual in connection with our faith. Personally I trust that the Lord will provide for my needs every time, as he has never failed me yet. It’s through our experience of the Lords provision that we trust that the Lord will provide the necessary funds for our followthebus.org team to depart on our journey from South Africa to Germany in October.

Remember we build trust through the consistency of our behaviours.

Ask yourself what does my or their behaviour say about who we are?

Reputation is built on references and recommendations. It’s through reference or others recommendations that you feel safe to put your life in the hands of a driver or their vehicle for that matter. References can take official form, as a driver or vehicle has a reference of accreditation from the state in the form of a licence. It’s the same reason we trust the driver of a bus as they have the reference of being hired by a company. This has the opposite effect when it comes to South African minibus drivers though, as they have the reputation of being in the most accidents. That said the majority of our references come from friends and family.

The key thing to remember is that the strength of the reference is gauged not on the reference itself but by our experience of whom provides it.

Ask yourself what reputation are you or they building, and what are the references?

This is just a guide to help you navigate the trust process, not to judge or confine, but to build and grow.
We need to listen to our hearts and use all these elements in connection to navigate this journey.

Push the boundaries, You will surprise yourself and others will surprise you.

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